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Friday, May 25th, 2012
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9:12 pm
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I thought I would introduce myself, I'm Robin. I'm 26, married, own a home, my husband has a great career, I have been a nanny for five years,I make decent money and can bring my child to work if I wanted to, people call me and ask me for advice with their kids and my husband doesn't want to start trying to have kids yet. I understand that we don't normally have a lot of extra money at the end of the month and we have almost no savings. I understand that we just got married a few months ago, but we started dating four years ago. Lots of people make less money than we do and manage to take care of their kids. We just spend our money on stupid stuff rather than save it. In my head there's no reason we can't have kids now even if my husband is sort of right.
To top it off, one of my closest friends and my roommate are both pregnant. I went to my roommate's ultrasound with her yesterday. It was the most amazing thing ever, but I wanted it to be me so bad. I didn't really feel this way until after I got married,and then all of a sudden I was baby crazy. My husband always changes the date he wants to have kids. Sometimes he says once his leave starts which is in June. Then he says once he gets to his new command in August, sometimes it's December and sometimes it's in a few years. We recently agreed on letting him go to his new command and see what his schedule would be like and then TTC after that. I am still trying to convince him to start earlier. He gets home soon and last time we talked I asked him if we could start trying when he got back. He said he'd think about it. I really hope we can. I have a feeling though that he will put it off for at least a few more months. I keep thinking that if we at least start maybe not trying but not preventing then I will feel better even if it takes me a year to get pregnant. At least we've decided to start up a baby savings account. We want to have some money put away to buy a crib and things like that.
I'm just really glad I'm not the only person who wants a baby this bad even when it's not exactly the perfect time.
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| Wednesday, May 23rd, 2012
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6:22 am - ARRRRGH!
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fleckerbug
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Does anyone else do this?? I swear, every little twinge, I think I'm pregnant. I didn't start my new p4ack of HBC on time this month and so I just decided to let things go to see if I would menstruate on my on, thinking the likelihood of pregnancy was slim. Then last week, I have this mind-blowing sex with my husband at what would be a 'normal' person's peak fertile time. Part of my brain keeps telling me my randiness must've been because I was ovulating. And then two days ago I kept having all the cervical twinges, just for one day, very frequently and they've let up. Not cramping, just weird twinging in my cervix. So far, all of my test are negative (but of course I look at them at every angle and in ever light).
I know I'm not likely pregnant and it's not a good time. Still, I find myself hoping and then I keep brain-storming ideas as to how we could make it work with having a baby in my last semester of nursing school-- in my last semester I'll only have lecture one day (all day) a week and for the second half of the semester I get to establish my own clinical days too (two rotations a semester)-- I could largely do weekend clinical and my husband could stay with the baby then and my MIL could take her the one day a week that I have lecture). September (official TTC time) could not come fast enough!!!
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| Friday, May 11th, 2012
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12:27 am
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fleckerbug
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Wow... just realized that we only have 3 mo. until our next TTC date. I'm starting to wonder if I don't have a luteal phase defect (you know, when I actually ovulate.. on Clomid). I'm halfway wondering if I shouldn't see a specialist earlier than I'd planned, so that we don't have to spend months trying to figure things out when we actually want to be TTC. Of course, I wouldn't want to waste successful ovulations. :/ I'm planning on going back on Metformin next month after all... perhaps that'd be better managed by the specialist than my GP. I dunno. Anyway... getting excited but anxious! I only have two more weeks of nursing school (oh goodness.. only 12 days, actually) and the summer looms ahead!
Still don't know how my in-laws will react. Can't say I really effing care, aside from it being a stressor for us. My husband's been trying to open up to his mom lately, about our fertility issues and the fact that we're trying/going to be trying, and it never goes over well. :/ But then yesterday my in-law were saying that they thought babies should be spaced closer than my husband's sister did ( almost 3 years exactly) because they think the three year old is reacting poorly (I think she's just being a kid... maybe regressing a little, but come on), so perhaps they will eventually react positively to the fact that we don't plan on waiting between kids (once we can manage to have them, that is).
Anyway.. hope you're all clucking along alright.
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| Monday, April 9th, 2012
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5:53 pm - im new here ..
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hi my name is Jessie and im new here but you guys really caught my eye ,
i cant wait to be pregnant !
im hoping to conceive in july so that ill have a spring baby <3
i dont exactly know what to say on here but id love to get some feedback : ) thanks !
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| Sunday, April 1st, 2012
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2:49 am
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I am officially going off the deep end. I stocked up on tissue while shopping tonight because it was really inexpensive if I bought 4+. While looking at the different prints, I came across a box with owls printed on it! OMG-- so cute! What makes me crazy is that I'm squirreling it away in my nursery stash (we're likely going to have an owl-themed nursery).
( My nursery tissue, LOL! )
Heh, I still have one whole stash box with a lot of room in it! (I wil buy no more stash boxes, I rarely get baby stuff anymore because I already have a lot and I want to still need something when I get pregnant.
*sigh* I started a new clinical rotation today and am on a surgical floor. I felt so bad for this one young woman who was there for a suspected ruptured ectopic pregnancy :/ I've never had one but I've had problems enough so I could really feel for her while simultaneously being faced with one of my biggest fears.
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| Sunday, March 25th, 2012
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| Friday, March 23rd, 2012
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1:55 pm - changes
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Since the last time I posted here, my fiance and broke up. I found out after the break-up that he had cheated on me. Obviously, that'll change plans in a hurry. So, anyway, cue the rebound turning into serious boyfriend material. He's long distance for now, but he came up here over spring break. It was great. I'm going to see him in May once school is out, and he's planning on relocating closer in august.
Anyway, after the breakup, my baby rabies really died down. I was excited to finish school and start eaching and all that. Then Eddie came up to see me, I realized how great we really are together, and it allllllll came back. Crrently, I'm not feeing good at all physically, nauseous and achy and exhausted and...you can see where this is going. Being long distance means we talk a lot, since we don't see a ton of each other. I know that he wants kids, and sooner rather than later. I keep trying to remind myself that we need to wait and make sure we're going to last, but I can't help but try and convince myself that my physical issues over the past few days are pregnancy symptoms. Getting my period in a week or so is going to elate and crush me.
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9:44 am - Heartache and hope
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I know I've spoken before about babysitting; it's one of my most favorite things! People say "well that must make you not want to have kids" and "isn't it nice to be able to give them back?" but I have the opposite reactions. Babysitting only increases my cluck, even if the kids are particularly horrible one night. And I ache every time I leave them. Recently, Roman (my 2 year old little buddy) made me give him extra good night kisses and told me he loved me again. How could I want to "give him back" and be happy about it? What's very sad is that Roman's mom told me their family is moving to Denver at the end of May. Last year, my two favorite little ones moved back to Minnesota (they were in Maine because dad was playing for our AHL hockey team, but they live in MN). Why do my favorites always leave? I have a few more families I sit for, but not as often, so I don't have strong relationships. I'll see Roman on the 30th of this month, and it might be the last time. I'll probably be a mess; he's the best little kid! :( My heart hurts already and they aren't even gone yet. :(
As if that's not bad enough, my office-mate and I were talking about babies, etc and she told me that she and her new hubby are going to start TTC after their first wedding anniversary in September. I'm extremely happy for her, don't get me wrong. She'll be 31 by then, and I can tell she's got the cluck in full-force, as the proverbial "clock" is ticking for her. It's just going to be very difficult to listen to her TTC stories and watch her be pregnant, knowing my time is not yet. I'm already green with envy.
Ethan and I are getting married in a stealth/private family ceremony on April 15th! We originally decided on September, but there are 4, maybe 5 other weddings in the friends/family circle that month (holy wedding season, Batman). We're doing the intimate ceremony at his parents' gorgeous house, and then throwing a big, informal party at our place in September. We're both kinda baby-crazy at this point, and I have this hopeful feeling that I'll be pregnant at the celebration in September. This is not likely, as I'll have to get my IUD removed and convince Ethan that we should start TTC but it is kind of my dream! We're doing the wedding, and then sending out old-fashioned type marriage announcements (E&M got married-surprise! or something of the like) and incorporating save-the-dates for the reception/party. I think it would be extremely cool to make a toast at the party and announce my pregnancy. *sigh* Probably not likely, but it's nice to picture!
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| Friday, March 16th, 2012
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4:59 pm
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Had my hysterosalpingogram today (blech, feel like crud... in a lot of pain and am really nauseous)! Things look good! :D They said my tubes are totally clear, my uterus is a variant of normal (not completely sure... google tells me it's considered normal or an anomaly :/. Trying not to get concerned since they weren't and they didn't say anything after my c-section), and my uterus may be slightly tilted, but that's not a huge deal.
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| Wednesday, February 29th, 2012
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8:58 pm - Here we go again...
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Basically this is going to be a woe-is-me post, and for that I'm sorry. Skip it if you want to.
SIL just had her 2nd in January. Friend just had her 1st like a week ago. And now I find out my cousin is pregnant.
v_______v; *insert me being mad for no reason and crying*
I'm..............just kinda tired of "waiting for my turn". Like, yanno.....being pregnant is a....special attention thingy for me? I don't want to share that with anyone close to me that is pregnant too (I avoid competition in ALL FORMS!). /selfish. But that's how I feel.
If anyone can talk some sense into me about it, or turn my way of thinking, I would appreciate it right now, cause I'm this close @ 9pm calling my mother and bitching/crying at her about it. She doesn't deserve that and she'll just tell me I'm being stupid anyways.
And cousin is significantly younger than me (I'm 25), not married (nothing against that, but I'll include it just cause!), and still lives at home with her parents. I don't know what her employment status is, either.
EDIT: As I mentioned in one of my comments, I talked to my cousin a couple days ago and she was cool when I told her I was jealous but the more I talked to her those feelings went away. Instead they were replaced with excitement, as I'm hoping this might bring us and her side of the family back closer again like when we were kids. Also, she is two months prego and I think tomorrow she's going to the doctor's to get a sonogram and find out her due date. :) Can't wait until she finds out if it's a girl or boy. And I've always been keen to names, so I'm wondering if she has any in mind. Guess I'll ask the next time we talk. 8D; We have sooo many cute baby-stuff at work, I'm sure I'll be "shopping" today when I go in. XD;
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| Monday, February 27th, 2012
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9:31 am - Baby dust
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thehourspass
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Cluckers: my friends Micah and Christina are TTC and having some difficulties. I've been sending good thought and prayers their way, but any other well-wishes and baby-dust will be helpful. They are looking into IVF specialists and she's waiting on tests to confirm PCOS. Please sprinkle a little extra baby-dust their way.
Thanks!
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| Monday, February 13th, 2012
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9:13 pm
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I met with my old gyno a few weeks ago (insurance change). I decided I don't like her, but I'm letting her run some tests I need. I'm going to be having a hysterosalpingogram this week and I'm not looking forward to it. I've wanted to have one for awhile, though. If you don't know what that is, they inject radioactive dye through your cervix, up into your uterus and your fallopian tubes. Then they do a CT or MRI or whatever to see if you have any fallopian or uterine blockages. It can be painful, and in my experience I don't handle the pain of things being inserted into my uterus very well. :/ I hope they can give me something for my anxiety and for the pain.
I was talking with another student in my my nursing program yesterday and she was going on and on about how old she is and how she wants another child, but she thinks she's getting too old. She's the same age as me (31). Blah.
7 more months. Just 7 more months. I wonder what the chances are that I'll actually get pregnant soon after we try. Hopefully better than they were before. :/ I'm trying to console myself with the fact that at least I can probably get pregnant, even if we need a lot of help, and some people don't even have that. Especially trying to be grateful for that because I've been really down lately about chances of ever having a VBAC. When I saw my doctor, she was really down on the idea and was kinda nasty about it (which is why I won't continue with her for pregnancy). It upsets me that I likely won't be able to VBAC and that because of my first butchering, they'll want to deliver me at 38 weeks.
Lol, sorry if this isn't the typical clucky post... digressed a bit.
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| Monday, February 6th, 2012
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3:26 pm - Baby shower blues
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thehourspass
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On Saturday I went to a baby shower for my landlady's DIL. She is a girl I despise (the DIL, not the landlady). She's a racist (you don't even want to know what she used to call the Cambodian family who lives across the street from me) and she's the most insincere, toxic person I know. I was shocked to get an invite, but it's only because the landlady loves me (and she hates her DIL as much as the rest of us). Our upstairs neighbor also got an invite; if she hadn't gone, I wouldn't have.
There were some adorable babies there and DIL got tons of gifts. She had such a fake smile of appreciation on her face the whole time. I wanted to slap her. My neighbor as a gentle ribbing, got her children's books with ethnic characters (The Snowy Day was one; it's one of my faves). Watching DIL be so ungrateful was awful. She's so lucky, she gets to have a baby right now (may God, and the dad help that baby) and she wasn't even sincere about her gifts or the people there. How come such a nasty person like that gets to have a baby right now and I don't? My neighbor and I bailed before the obnoxious games were played, but at least we got cake!
I kept daydreaming about my own baby shower; who I'd invite, where it would be. Saturday's was at a country club (gag me) and was a bit too formal for my tastes. It was 4 scheduled hours (thankfully I was there for only 2.5) of drinking (I wish I were kidding) games and awkward encounters. Mine would be so laid back and fun. Some of those baby shower games can be cute, but they just aren't my style. I'd just want to have my best girlfriends and an eff-load of good food.
The day after, I went to a different church (been church shopping, as I am no longer attending my church out of town) and it was Family Sunday. There were children and babies everywhere. The children's choir sung two songs and I swear I melted all over the pews. There was this one adorable little blonde boy on the end who couldn't have been over 2 and a half, and bless his little heart, he tried so hard and sung so loud and tried to do all the hand motions. I wanted to kidnap him and take him home. I'm trying not to let all those little children sway my decision re: the church, but they were so cute! I could definitely picture my children there someday, and that was nice.
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| Friday, February 3rd, 2012
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12:32 am
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Hello all!
I'm Charlotte, I'm 21 and I'm from England. I have a boyfriend (he is 23) who I have been with for 7 years this year and we're going to Florida in May, it is our anniversary whilst we're there!
Hnnggg so I am SO broody and so is my boyfriend, maybe even more so than me! He is constantly asking me when can we have a baby? Well we both still live with our mom's, although after Florida we're saving up to move out. We don't earn much money, I'm about to start an apprenticeship as a nursery nurse and it will be a rubbish wage, though I do have another job that earns lots more money, it's shift work and will be hard to squeeze in alongside the apprenticeship. My boyfriend is a sales assistant on minimum wage. ALSO my mom and dad would FREAK if I got pregnant =/
So there's lots of things stopping me from actually getting pregnant...but oh god do we want a baby so bad!
There's my rant, sorry it's a bit holy run on sentence batman! Kudos if you read it all.
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| Sunday, January 29th, 2012
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5:41 pm
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Okay, I admit it...I'm a bit clucky. There, I said it...outloud, well, sort of.
We're not in any sort of place to have more children. I am very lucky to have two healthy children after one healthy pregnancy (ID twins) My girls are three, and many of my friends from my mommy groups who had just one are having their second ones now.
*sigh* I suppose at least it feels good to admit it.
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| Sunday, January 15th, 2012
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11:47 am - Excited!
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Hey guys! I just wanted to share some exciting news for me. Well me and my boyfriend had obviously talked about what we'd do if we ever became pregnant in the past when we were newer in our relationship... The thing is that back then we were well... new lovey in dovey and things change. Now we live together and stuff and we have never really confronted each other about the 'baby talk' because well... we're using protection! Last night though I decided to just go out on a whim and ask him "babe if I came to you now and said we messed up and are pregnant... would you even consider abortion?" he looked at me dead serious in the eye and said "if I have to work every day of every minute of my life to make sure my child is okay... I would... fuck money. And if you became pregnant and decided to get abortion forget my face... you'll never see me again" I know, I know people that are pro choice don't be alarmed because those are MY THOUGHT EXACTLY. I am well aware everyone is entitled to make their own choices but I am pro-choice all the way and my choice? I couldn't get an abortion... and it was truly scary for me that if I DID become pregnant out of sheer luck then he could maybe think too much about money or what not and say maybe we're not ready... but hearing him say that was suuuuch a relief. I am, of course, still using protection but it's a weight off my shoulders and I just... wanted to share =)
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| Tuesday, January 10th, 2012
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5:28 pm
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I know I keep posting about this, but I need to vent again. :/ Like I've been saying, I know a million pregnant women right now.
Two of them are my best friends, though. I'm so jealous and so upset. They are due within a week of each other. I would love to be pregnant and due at the same time as either of them.
Plus... I'm better friends with both of them than they are with each other, but the one I see less told the other that she was pregnant before she told me. I figured she told her because they have it in common and that she probably wanted to tell me in person. I know they we're likely waiting because she had a miscarriage and she's also just high risk. But now she just announced it to facebook, which makes me feel really bad. I'm not looking for validation... I feel stupid for feeling jealous and hurt, but I do feel jealous and hurt and... bleh. I kinda feel like calling her and acting like I didn't see her facebook, to give her the opportunity to tell me.
If I'm honest with myself, they probably aren't too excited about being due at the same time because she's so high risk.
*sigh* All of my bridesmaids are pregnant (these two plus my SIL). How fucked up is that? :(
Oh... and my husband trued to talk to his mom this weekend about our TTC and she was a total jerk. He was so upset, he doesn't even want to tell me about it. We got the baby in the epiphany cake at his family's church this weekend (means I have to make the cake next year) and he was in high spirits... we told a few people that we hoped it was a good sign and they were really excited for us. Riding those good feelings, he said the same thing to his mother, said maybe there'd be a baby on the way next epiphany. She just totally shut him down and started talking about me getting a job first, etc. As some of you know, we tried for three years until last June(taking a break so I don't have a baby during school), not telling anyone other than some close friends. We didn't want our family's possibly opinions. As needing more extensive fertility treatments has become a possibility, I really wanted to talk to my mom. I just need the emotional support. So last May, I told her everything. She was so supportive, just a little upset that I'd felt I couldn't talk to her. She didn't give her opinion about our finances, didn't point out that I'm still in school. She said we were adults and our private marital decisions were just that, that other people's opinions didn't matter and she just wanted to be there for me. His parents just think that everyone under the sun wants their opinions, and that as their child, my husband especially does. I swear, if she said that to me... I wouldn't be rude, but I would tell her that we neither seek nor desire their opinions regarding our family planning.
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| Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012
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9:04 am
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The count is up to 7! Turns out one of my friends from highschool wasn't telling anyone other than family about her pregnancy until the baby was here safely (she had a loss last year). Technically her baby is the first of the group and was (just barely) born in 2011 instead of 2012.
And just as I'm posting this, the laboring woman on Baby Story gives birth (yah yah, why am I torturing myself?) and it turns out the baby's name is Brenna Rose. I've met other Brennas, but not other Brenna Roses. Fun. *sigh* And then the family all came in and I just imagined the grandma being my mom and my daughter's birth being one people were excited about. She even had a lot of hair like Brenna... just looking at their baby imagining a little redheaded baby. Hmm... anyone have any new ideas as to how to torture myself? :P At least Brenna Rose sounds prettier in a West Coast accent than in a Jersey accent (yay, look at that-- I can be catty!).
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| Friday, December 30th, 2011
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6:06 am
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Oy... what to do while I wait?? The cluckiness has hit me so hard in the last month or so. I'm hoping it will be easier once my school starts back up, but then I'll have 4 months off over the summer in which to stew.
Do any of you have any plans or projects to occupy your time while you wait to TTC (I suppose this applies more to those who have a TTC date in sight, but I guess anyone could still have projects)?
I have so many baby outfits bookmarked that I want to knit. I'm thinking of knitting a hat a month or something, or perhaps knitting/crocheting a block of a blanket a week.
September couldn't get here faster!!
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| Wednesday, December 28th, 2011
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11:07 pm - vent....
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Hello Clucky peeps!
I have a dilemma that maybe you guys can help me with. I'm in a relationship with an older guy (which makes me very happy), but he always has doubts that I'm unhappy with the relationship. But, that's another post for another time....
Here's the gist of my problem...my biological clock is ticking LOUDLY! But, he doesn't want children, but he knows that I want children. Half the time, he is sending me mixed signals (I know, I know.....another post.) I also work a job with special needs children and live with an adorable 9 month old. :)
Damn....what can I do?!?!?! My parents don't understand (my mom had my brother and I by my age) and wanting grandkids. (My brother isn't having kids right now, as he is just married.)
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| Friday, December 23rd, 2011
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6:01 pm - Sorry so long.... need to vent. :/
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I know I posted about this recently, but I just need to vent. EVERYONE I know is pregnant. I never thought I'd be like this, but I can't handle Facebook right now.
My best friend has been noticing pregnant people right and left too and thought she might be imagining it just because she's pregnant.
She's not imagining it. I'm not imagining it. My best friend is pregnant. My very good friend I mentioned in my last post who my best friend and I thought 'might' be pregnant is indeed pregnant (though she hasn't told me.. :( I'm a little hurt she told my best friend but not me because we're better friends, but I know how high risk she is. I think she wants to tell me, but we haven't had any time alone; planning a girls' night after Christmas). My SIL is pregnant. A girl I know from high school whom I'm still friendly with on Facebook... someone I never thought of as the motherly type... is pregnant (and I'm assuming on purpose since she's a lesbian). The wife of the guy I dated before my husband is pregnant. AAAANNNNnnnnnd I just found out another good friend, who I'm not much in touch with since she moved to the east cost, is 6 mo. pregnant!! That's 6 women that I know of, all friends that I see regularly on Facebook.
I keep just trying to tell myself it will be nice not having to share the limelight. And I'll get a lot of hand-me-downs!! Not to mention, having friends pregnant at the same time as me with my first made it painful when I had so many complications and their babies were perfectly healthy.
I really don't want to be jealous or have difficult being happy for others... but effing seriously??? This is ridiculous.
One bit of good news-- I was miscalculating when my last semester of school ends and it turns out I can stop taking my birth control pills 2 or 3 months earlier than I thought I could. I was planning on November or December, October at the earliest, but I can actually stop in early September (I'd be halfway through a cycle then, so I'm just going to give myself a 6-weeks cycle so I can stop September 1). I'm trying not to get my hopes up given our past difficulties, but I am just enchanted by the idea of walking across the stae and getting pinned at 8 mo. pregnant. :D
Also, good news, I just got my placement for this coming semester. I'll be in psych/medical-surgical nursing this spring, which means next fall I'll be in maternity/pediatric nursing. It'd be fun to be pregnant while doing my maternity rotation! Also, I found out that my clinicals during my preceptorship (it's like an 1-1 internship), which happens during my second rotation of my last semester of nursing school, can be set at my own pace, so I may be able to do 4 days a week instead of 2 (if I can handle it!), allowing me to finish clinicals early (I'd still have lecture through the end of May, but that wouldn't be physically and emotionally trying like clinicals and if I had complications, lecture can be missed while clinicals can't).
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| Thursday, December 1st, 2011
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10:37 pm
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It seems like everyone I know is pregnant. My best friend, my SIL, the wife of a guy I used to date. And I think one of my other friends is pregnant.
My best friend is due on my wedding anniversary and my SIL's doctor wanted to schedule her c-section for the same day as my daughter's birthday (they're postponing it a few days out of respect).
This is making it so hard to wait! We now have less than a year to wait until we start trying again, but after battling infertility, that's not as heartening for me as it might be to someone else. The good news is that our new (better) insurance just kicked in, so I'll be making an appointment with an OBGYN, and then a specialist if necessary, soon.
Oy... anyone else dealing with everyone in their life being pregnant?
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| Monday, November 21st, 2011
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5:27 pm - Babies are Everywhere
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My wedding is less than 7 months away. I don't want a maternity wedding dress. But I want nothing more than to be pregnant. Every winter, I go into housewife mode, cooking big meals, super cleaning closets and such. I keep looking through christmas catalogs and going "someday, my daughter will want one of those, I should just buy it now" or "that would be really cute in a nursery, I should start working on that" when we won't even be TTCing until a year from now. Every where I look though there's a baby or someone's pregnant or they're talking about a baby. I want it so bad. My ovaries literally seem to be hurting. I can picture every aspect of my day and my life with a preggo belly/baby/toddler/child in it and I hate waiting.
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| Sunday, November 20th, 2011
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10:25 pm - Introductory Post
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Hi everbody, I'm new to LJ and I stumbled upon this community! I thought it'd be nice to say 'hi' and hopefully get to know some new people who might actually understand what I'm feeling and going through right now.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for approximately nine months now. It's medically not recommended for me to have a baby, because I'm a kidney and dialysis patient. I'm not fertile because of that. At all. But, the waiting list for a kidney is so long and I have a very, very long wait ahead of me, still. Pregnancy would come with some health risks for me, and I have a higher risk of miscarriage and giving birth premature. Yet, the time just feels right. Kidney problems aside, I'm relatively healthy!
Two months ago, I learned that I actually was pregnant. I lost it that exact same day. Probably for the better, because it had not allowed me to get all attached to it yet, but it was a disappointment nevertheless. I now have - yet another - friend, two years older than I am, pregnant with baby #3. This is continuously sparking me and husband's baby fever, as well as disappointment, because we can't conceive easily.
I'm a little bit done with everybody telling me that I should wait, that we're still young, that 'now is not a good time, because the doctors keeps telling me so'. We just want a baby, and we would love to welcome one now. There's no guarantees that things are going to be any easier or better for me, after getting a transplant another eight years from now. People like to attribute this feeling to being young and foolish, but that is not the case. Just because medically, I might not be in the best condition for it, doesn't mean that the waiting or the wanting is any less or any different from any other trying couple.
I'm sorry if I'm being such a downer here, on my very first post. On a lighter note, I'm looking forward to getting to know you and offer you some support or encouragement of my own. It's there for the taking. ;)
Good luck, everyone!
Merèll
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| Wednesday, November 16th, 2011
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10:08 am - Baby names
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thehourspass
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Last night SO and I were in bed reading and I mentioned that I liked the old-fashioned names in the book (it's set in the 40s and 50s) and that got us talking about baby names.
We both want to have 4 kids (I love him for this- we knew like the 2nd day into our relationship that we both wanted a big family) and we got to talking about names, even though we aren't even talking about TTC yet. Ideally, we have 2 boys and 2 girls. Talking about the names was fun and challenging; "can't use that name, so-and-so's daughter is named that" or "that kid was a punk in high school, no way." The ones we like the most:
Madeline Martha MacDougal
Esther Lucille MacDougal
Jameson Jeffery MacDougal
Stuart Peter MacDougal
These are all kind of old-timey sounding, which we like. They are also mostly family names, which is so important to us.
Now I just can't wait to have our babies and raise them. I started thinking about watching them grow up; I look forward to babies and children, but also all the parts of growing up (even the difficult teenage years). I want it all!
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| Saturday, November 12th, 2011
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6:02 pm
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I'm crazy. Wanting to have a baby makes me crazy!
So I had a ranty post a little while ago when I was frustrated with my husband, things are much better now, I think I've just been really moody lately(hormones are out of whack I think with this baby rabies). Anyway, we moved into the new house, and as of the 8th, until the 28th I`m off the pill because my doctor will not prescribe my years supply until I get my annual pap( Everyone`s favorite event....right........:(). Anyway hubby knows this but since I`ve been off the pill we have been having like...lots of unprotected sex( initiated by hubby). Never the less I reminded him today that he should probably be careful because of the pill situation. He was NOT careful after I said this, but was slightly annoyed that I had brought it up(not in a serious way, but like a kind of I know but don`t say anything way)??. Anyway this kind of makes me wonder if what I suspected before about him kind of wanting to have a baby but not wanting to actually say "ok let`s have a baby" and just preferring it to happen without his actually having to say he planned it. He knows how badly I want a baby also, but I wish he would just tell me he wants a baby and lets do this thing. We have been in this situation a couple times before where we have had unprotected sex (at the time he told me he wanted me to get pregnant and later said we should not have unprotected sex/have a baby then.(he was probably really right though, in hindsight). This time he said NOTHIng. So confused!
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| Friday, November 11th, 2011
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12:43 pm - Mirena Fell Out
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dirtywordplay
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The other night I was in the shower, and my mirena strings were hanging out. I went to examine further and it fell out. My wedding is in seven months and five days. Not enough time for a pregnancy. I want it so badly, but I have the dress and the invites and everything is in motion and I don't want to postpone again. But it feels like the perfect sign that this is supposed to happen. I just had my period last week, and haven't been very "active" lately, so chances are slim to none that I'm pregnant, but I keep trying to rationalize how it could have happened and how it could all work out to be just fine.
Since I can't really TTC yet, what BC method would you all recommend for the next year? I'm not doing another IUD and I'm completely opposed to the shot. Open to any other suggestions though.
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| Tuesday, November 1st, 2011
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2:34 pm - Babysitting
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thehourspass
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I love babysitting. I really do. I like to call it "practice" and its fun and I get to make money. But damn if it doesn't make the cluck worse. Friday night and Saturday night I babysat; Saturday night it was for a new little boy named Sam. Everything went pretty well; his parents are cool and he was fun. They have an interesting parenting style (but who am I to judge) and I felt okay about it when I left. I got this e-mail yesterday from mom:
"Samuel woke up Sunday morning and the first thing he said was "Where is
Maria?" I said "She went home and is probably sleeping." Sam said
"Call her and tell her to come back".....it was pretty cute! I'd say
you were a big hit with our little guy!"
I just about DIED. Talk about making my day! :) I hope my own kids love me this much! I'm going to keep babysitting until we are TTC but I just can't WAIT to have my very own.
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| Monday, October 17th, 2011
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8:55 am - Boy play vs girl play
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thehourspass
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I babysat again this weekend. A little boy named Roman. He's two and just as cute as can be. I think we played with his train set for 3 hours. It is so interesting to me, the difference between the way boys play and the way girls play. Roman is very physical; he was climbing all over me ("I'm a monkey!" he kept saying-adorable!) and he always wanted to crash the trains and growl and play roughly with his dinosaurs. The little girl, Gianna I used to babysit was 3 and it was totally different. We'd have tea-parties; she could sit still for a while. She hated dirt and never wanted to play with her baby brother's "boy toys." Both are fun for me; I've always wanted 4 children, and at least one of each. It will be interesting to watch the styles of play with my own children some days. Roman has dolls and things (his parents are amazing-not trying to block him into gender-specific toys etc) but his mom always says he inherently gravitates towards the trains, dinosaurs and cars. The way our brains are hardwired is so interesting.
Babysitting is so fun and amazing but it amplifies the cluck by a million percent. I constantly find myself thinking "how would I handle this if he were my child?" or "I wonder how my child would do this or that?" it is both frustrating and fun. My turn is coming, I know, and since my fiance is clucky too, I know its not too far off. But still, SO HARD to be with those little ones and ignore the cluck!
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| Friday, October 14th, 2011
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11:01 pm
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Small rant. Or as I like to think of it "release of negativity"
We are moving from our really horrible apartment with a slum lord, lots more to say on that but we can save it for today and get to the real issue. We want to look in a nicer neighborhood, and one place we looked at was a little four bedroom townhouse on a quiet street, lots of trees, really nice.There was some talk about it being a good place to have kids, that sort of thing. Hubby even told me to put on the application as one of the reasons we were moving "start family". All things that made me think maybe he would consider having a baby soon because I am frustrated as hell waiting. I've felt like I'm being jerked around all the time, from the times we have not been careful and he has told me he wants to get me pregnant followed by retracting the statement...It's not him trying to mess with me I know. It's just...GAH.
Anyway, I found out today that we didn't get that place but they had matched us with another place they wanted us to take a look at. I was initially really hesitant because it is on the very edge of the neighborhood we don't want to be in even though it is a much safer area. Anyway, the reason I felt that way wasn't the neighborhood, it was the fact that despite it being a 3 bedroom house hubby would almost definitely refuse to have kids there. We went and looked at it, it was actually much nicer than I expected, a few things I'd want to fix up(repaint since last tenant, etc.) but the kitchen and flooring for instance were gorgeous and it has this big old fireplace which I've always wanted. Hubby seemed to like it too, and despite our nerves we told the landlord we would put down the deposit this weekend. I still a little upset thinking it would yet again prevent Hubby from considering having kids, and we talked a little and he basically said "I just would want to move before the child was old enough to go to school." Which is fine.
Fast forward a few hours and he is saying the reason we can't have a child is because of money NOT the area we live in. (Even though we could reasonably raise a child on the income we have now, and are willing to pay twice as much for our new place.). Which is fine. I can live with waiting until I get my next raise which will be within the next couple of months, probably actually two coming up, and moving into a nice big house, would be excellent.
And then...the kicker. Hubby is now saying the house is "too creepy"and he doesn't feel like we should live there. WTF????!
I'm beyond frustrated. I don't even know what I am right now. I just needed to vent, and write this novel for you all to read...lol.
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| Thursday, October 6th, 2011
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1:49 pm
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Oh my gosh... more babies! I think I've mentioned my husband's sister is pregnant with #2, also that we should be finding out soon if my brother's gf's 11 mo./old babies are genetically his. Well, I just got a call from my best friend last night (I've mentioned her-- the one who got pregnant the first month we started Clomid). She has a 10 mo. old and just found out she's due in June with #2.
It's kinda of funny because she and I discuss pregnancy and TTC quite a bit and she was helpful and encouraging when I was trying to decide whether to stop TTC while I'm in nursing school. She's doing something similar to me and going back to school for occupational therapy/physical therapy. She's hoping to get in somewhere for next fall. I just find this amusing because that's the exact same situation I was agonizing over and had decided that I wasn't happy with my choices-- take a year off to have a baby, or try and have the baby during the summer and go straight back to school in the fall. She's planning on starting next fall if she gets in... I don't know if I could do it. I'm really happy for her though. I know they wanted another and if they didn't do it now (unplanned) that they would've wound up waiting years. Can't say it's easy not to compare my situation to hers, though. :P *Deep breath*.... just ~12 more mo.!
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| Monday, October 3rd, 2011
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5:10 am - Sterilized and clucky?
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I have six children. I had a tubal ligation done after the youngest was born. My husband and I agreed on six, we agreed that was all we could afford and raise, etc. We're done, and I know that. I don't want to have the procedure reversed; I'm almost 40 years old and that stage of my life is over. Really.
But... sometimes I just wish I could do it all over again I guess. Or that I could experience being pregnant and giving birth just one more time. I find myself getting jealous of pregnant women... not angry-jealous, but wistful-jealous. Jealous in that I feel that what they are going through is so absolutely wonderful and that I wish so much that I could be a part of it again.
It's a sad thing to know that's all over for me. I cried uncontrollably the day of my tubal ligation. I know many people (even my own doctor) told me that if I felt so strongly, I probably shouldn't have it done. My doctor actually said to me, "I can tell you would have more children, Cindy. Are you sure you really want to do this?"
And I said, "No I don't want to do this! But if I don't have this done, I will have more children. There's no doubt in my mind. But that doesn't mean I should have more children. Doctor, I have six! That's enough. I'm doing this to save myself from myself!"
I went on crying. The doctor understood. She had five children of her own, and she just squeezed my shoulder and said, "All right, hon."
That was almost four years ago... and it's not any easier. As I find my memories of pregnancy fading, I feel as though part of me is slipping away. I don't regret the tubal ligation at all. I know that sounds strange to say. But I know that six children is enough. My brain knows this.
I wish, though, that my heart could know it.
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| Saturday, September 10th, 2011
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2:19 am
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fleckerbug
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Babies, babies, babies!
So, apparently there's a bigger likelihood that my brother is the father of his on-again, off-again girlfriend's babies than I had previously thought. They're almost a year old and he should be finding out definitively in the next few weeks (she lives in another country-- last time he was there she wasn't 'ready' to find out; they did a test awhile ago, but since his DNA was old {sent overseas}, the test results were inconclusive). He mentioned right before she had them that it was a possibility, but he didn't seem very serious and I just assumed they were her husband's (but apparently they've been separated a long time, so who knows). She did give them American names and the boy's name is only one letter off from my brother's (Darrell/Darren), and that kinda raised some flags for me. I kinda wish they'd made more of an effort to find out sooner, but trying to keep my nose out of it. As soon as I find out, I will begin knitting of course. :)
And I think I've mentioned my husband's sister is pregnant again, due within days of my daughter's birthday.
So, if all goes as everyone hopes, I'll be going from one niece to four nieces/nephews.
My brother really wants the babies to be his (heh, a special kind of cluck!) and I'm hoping for his sake that they are. From what he said when I saw him on his two-day layover, he thinks them being his would just send his relationship further in the direction it's been heading, so I worry about what finding out they're not his would do to him.
Nice to have so many babies in my life... wish some of them could be mine. :/ I'm a little jealous that she not only got pregnant, but had twins, and on top of that had boy/girl twins... my dream. *sigh* I actually said to my husband the other night, "Ya know, given how driven I am under stress, having a baby while I'm still in school might make things easier." :P
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| Friday, September 2nd, 2011
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3:24 pm - inspirational stories...
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fleckerbug
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I've started my nursing program and have been unexpectedly down lately. I was talking to some of my clinical buddies and speculated that having to stop TTC was part of it. One of the girls told me a story she'd heard about a second-year student last year who literally went into labor during the final, finished, and went to the hospital and had her baby. It also turns out that one of my clinical buddies has the same plan I do-- to get pregnant in the last semester. It's nice to hear that others have done it, there may b some people in the same boat as me, and I might even be doing my maternity rotation when we plan to start trying again, which could be fun (access to u/s and all). :D
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| Saturday, August 20th, 2011
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11:50 pm
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Hello, Clucky. We meet again. I was active here probably around 3 years ago. My son will be 2 on Friday.
I am clucky. It hit me from nowhere a few weeks ago, but it hit hard. And the timing is horrible. I start law school in a little over a week. AAARGH!
The legal field is not very momma friendly. Especially for someone just getting out of school. And I don't want me son to be way older than his future sibling. I've decided I think the best time for me to have another baby is actually while I'm still in law school. My understanding is the first year is the most demanding, second year is less demanding, and third year isn't nearly as demanding (Academically, anyway.) My husband and I agreed to start trying for #2 in about a year. (This is huge for me because he's been firm that he didn't want another baby. I kinda wish I didn't have to wait a year because I'm afraid he'll change his mind.) That would make me due in February of my 2nd semester of my 2nd year and my son would be 3.5 years old.
( more of me rambling about my reasons to TTC at certain times under the cut )
So, Clucky, seems like you and I will be friends for the next year or so.
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| Wednesday, August 17th, 2011
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1:38 pm - Hello all
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Hi hope you dont mind me joining as I already have 2 (8yr daughter & 9 month old son)
Age - 29 come December
Location - Norwich (UK)
Occupation - Full time mummy but also self employed
Pets - None
How long have you been clucky - It must be since my son was about 3/4 months old I think so back in feb/March 2011, I have always seen myself a mother of 3, no more, no less
Is your S/O clucky? - Sadly no, he says he does not want more than 2, I feel he may of been diff if our 2nd born was a girl again
Fertility issues/Fears - I know I have no probs falling pregnant, my fear is really about miscarrage as I suffered 2 while TCC baby #2
Breast or Bottle Fed - Breastfeed yet again
Boy or Girl - I have one of each already so would not mind tho I think I would leave it a surprised next time
How long until you TTC - If the ball was in my court I would love to try come Jan when we are back from our holiday, I'm hoping with all my heart my S/O will have a change of heart when we come back from our hols or before my 30th B-day next December
Birth Method - Same as the last 2, all natural, no drugs, gas and air etc, just breathing
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| Monday, August 15th, 2011
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1:39 pm - A beautiful story
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thehourspass
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Hi all,
I just read this online and thought to share this with you all: www.huffingtonpost.com/staceyann-chin/a-single-lesbians-quest-for-motherhood_b_925009.html
I read the comments, some of which are kind of awful, because of people being bigoted (both towards lesbians and towards women in general). I should learn not to read the comments. It just makes me upset.
Her story is so witty and uplifting. I found myself teary-eyed by the end. It reminds me somewhat of the movie Baby Mama (which I loved).
What are your thoughts on her story? I love that she decided she didn't need a partner- that she listened to her heart and her head and knew she was ready to be a mom. Its delightful to think that her child will be one that is so wanted and loved, and such a miracle.
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| Sunday, August 7th, 2011
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10:36 pm - Bye Bye Birth Control
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| Saturday, July 23rd, 2011
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10:04 pm - Baby Items!
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keelybird
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My partner and I just bought our first house and have a room designated for the nursery, nothing is allowed inside there except for nursery items! hehe!
We just bought our first item which is hanging in the closet......a cream fleecy baby blanket with a brown trim and an embroidered monkey!
Im so excited that we will be TTC soon, and now it feels so much more real!
Has any body else bought baby items before they even began TTC. What was your first baby item?
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7:45 pm
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fleckerbug
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This is so hard. Choosing to wait is so much harder than 'having' to wait. I've been spending so much time with my best friend's 7 m/o and my 2 y/o niece. The only thing keeping me sane is the back twinges I've been getting after holding them so much! Makes me remember how hard it would be to be pregnant during nursing school and how it will be nice to have another year to get in even better shape.
Still, baby rabies has got me bad and it doesn't help that there are some good justifications for not waiting as well. :/ I'm really afraid that if we wait it will be even harder. Also, if we wait I'm going to be 33 when I have our next (only living) baby. That is getting dangerously close to old enough to limit our family size. :/ At least we've both agreed that we're not going to space our babies much once we do start trying again, and we have some reason to hope that it'll be easier once we start up again. A small part of me wants to try now because I want the higher risk of twinning we'd have with fertility treatments (we're hoping being on the pill for a year will help me ovulate naturally when I come off-- I haven't been willing to try using the pill for this in the past because it meant waiting).
Oy, it doesn't help that SIL is talking about TTC #2 in the past few months. I worry I'm going to need some distance from her when she gets pregnant, but I must say, since coming off all the hormones and stopping TTC ourselves, I'm happy for her and really excited at the prospect of another nieces or nephew (my niece is going through this awesome verbal/agility developmental stage right now and she's just so darned adorable and amazing).
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| Monday, July 18th, 2011
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6:44 pm - Bye Bye Birth Control
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keelybird
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My clucky is reaching new heights now that i've started my LAST PACK OF BIRTH CONTROL PILLS!
We will be TTC in september/october. I can hardly wait!
xoxo
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| Wednesday, July 13th, 2011
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6:22 pm - A little reintroduction, and an announcement.
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eclispedheart
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I was previously a member of this community under the username keikulove, but have since deleted that profile and am starting over on this one, so I figured a reintroduction was in order. :D Name: Dani
Age: 20
Pets: Two dogs - a full blooded pomeranian named Punkin, and a Pom-a-pug (half pom, half pug) named Simon.
Clucky since: My first pregnancy scare when I was 15. I have been absolutely baby crazy since then, and now I'm back with the guy I had that first scare with.
Job: Deli associate at Walmart, looking to train to become a medical billing specialist so I can work from home.
Breast/Bottle: I'm undecided. My family is all for bottle feeding, so I always figured that's what I'd do. However, my boyfriend and his family are very much in favor of breastfeeding. I'm considering pumping, for the convenience of bottle feeding and the benefits of breast feeding.
Birth Plan: I will be giving birth vaginally with the wonders of an epidural, so obviously in a hospital. :D
How long till TTC: Well...
Fertility issues: None.
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| Friday, July 8th, 2011
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12:00 pm - Cloth Diapers
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thehourspass
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In my office today, we were having a debate about cloth diapers vs. disposable. I do not have any children yet (I wish) but based on what I have heard/read, I am leaning towards cloth diapers. I may change my mind when I actually have a child, but the women at work looked at me like I had 4 heads or something! One woman says they cloth diaper her granddaughter, but she wishes the parents would use disposables.
Where do you all stand? Cloth people- do people criticize you for going cloth?
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| Wednesday, June 29th, 2011
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12:57 pm - Children abound
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thehourspass
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The weekend before last I got engaged. Then this past weekend, I babysat the cutest two year old named Roman. His parents met in Rome, so they named him Roman. ADORBS. I always get more clucky while babysitting, but to make matters worse, the following day I went to a 1 year-old's birthday party! Naturally, there were children everywhere and every single one was so darn cute. My ovaries were SCREAMING. People were still in the midst of congratulating Ethan and I on our engagement, and at least 3 couples said "soon this will be you!"
I. WISH.
Ethan was playing with some toy trucks with one of the little boys and he was so good with the little guy. My heart melted and my stomach growled (not out of hunger). He is going to make such an amazing dad, which only exacerbates my cluck! Right now, we have to focus on wedding planning, but I can;t help but think beyond that. My dad is dying to be a grandfather too, and makes it known every time I talk to him. Jeeze! haha He's like, "I wouldn't be surprised if you got pregnant soon." To which I explained that I am on BC (I have a Mirena IUD) so the chances were slim until we actually plan to start TTC. But good old dad says "well, you never know." I think he'd rather I get pregnant than get married. He means well, but it doesn't help my cluck any! :(
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| Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
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10:25 pm
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I've dreamed I was pregnant every night for over a week. I was in somewhat recovery or at least had my clucky in a manageable contained state- until everyone around me started popping out the cutest babies in the world, and then the baby at work signed thank you to me, and everyone at work and on the bus has a baby or an adorable toddler, and...yeah. It's utterly exhausting wanting something so badly. It's so unfair. I want a baby so badly.
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| Sunday, June 19th, 2011
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8:54 am - So happy :)
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thehourspass
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Yesterday morning, while casually laying bed, I decide to get up. I roll over and tell Ethan (my darling SO) "good morning, I'm going to get up and take a shower." And he says "ok but not before I ask you a question" and then he pulls out a RING and PROPOSES to me!! :) I am so excited. And, to top it all off, its my birthday today.
We have talked a lot about our future, about how badly we want to start a family, but we always knew we had to get married first. Now that we are one step closer to that, my cluck has increased tenfold. When I called my dad (who already knew because Ethan asked permission..aww) he started talking about grand-babies almost immediately. Thanks dad, no pressure! Haha
For those of you that have been following Clucky a long time, you may remember that I was married before and then got a divorce. My EH wanted children but was not mature enough at the time to handle them (currently he is 25 and dating a 19 year-old and she was 17 when they got together, if that tells you anything about his maturity level**) and I am SO thankful he and I did not have children together. All of that led me here, to being engaged to a man who loves me for me, who treats me like a princess and wants a big family (we want 4 kids). I'm in love with a man who, while we are driving around will point out houses to buy that I think are too big, to which he says "but we're going to have 4 kids, we need a house that big." I am so lucky, and so CLucky!
**Anyone in this kind of a relationship for whom this is working, please don't take offense. In fact, Ethan is 10.5 years my senior, but it works for us. I just happen to know him, and know enough of her and have heard from mutual friends that they basically act like children.
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| Thursday, June 16th, 2011
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| Sunday, June 12th, 2011
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4:47 pm
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Ahh. I'm so clucky. And so frustrated.
My husband wants to wait a few more years until we have kids. He wants a career in journalism, a nice house, and both of us making boatloads of money. I'm turning 27 next month. I really wanted to have our first before I turned 30 D:
It's frustrating because we don't have these things. Heck, as a new immigrant to Canada, I haven't even found a job of my own yet. He wants it so that our children will have the very best and won't do without, and I completely understand this. Obviously I want these things for our children as well, and it would be selfish of me to keep pushing the issue when we're not in a good financial situation right now. But I'm not getting any younger, dangit! The cluck is killing me even more now, despite all attempts to drown it with rationality.
One of my friends has just announced that she's expecting her first child, and while I am ecstatic for her, I'm also sad that it's not me who is pregnant. As unreasonable this desire is right now, I can't seem to help it, and I knew that you girls would understand where I'm coming from.
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| Monday, June 6th, 2011
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11:21 am
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The other night my fiance hugged me and said "I wish you were just done with school so we could hurry up and have a family already" Squeeeeee!!! He's usually not in any hurry to have kids, but lately there've been more and more comments like that. My other favorite is "when you're done with school we'll have to get you a Ford Escape so we can fit kids and go on adventures" Which is awesome because I love Ford Escapes, and I love hearing him talk about our family. One year and ten days until we'll be married, as soon as we're back from the honeymoon, Mirena will be taken out and no more preventing.
On another note, my sister just got birth control, and looking over the options she saw the copper IUD...she leans over to my mom and goes "if you put copper up your 'thing' does your 'thing' turn green?" Lol, the visual!!!
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| Tuesday, May 31st, 2011
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2:03 pm - Intro Post
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dirtywordplay
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Name: dirtywordplay (Bethany)
Age: 21, fiance is 23
Pets: two cats, Kitty and Black-One, and a mallard duck nesting in our backyard
Clucky since: as long as I can remember I've wanted kids, but as for actually baby rabies, probably about four years now.
Job: student and searching for summer/part time job
Breast/Bottle: Breast and pumping for as long as possible
Birth Plan: I go back and forth between natural home birth and hospital medically assisted, so who knows. I don't want a C section though
How long till TTC: our wedding is next june, so just after that we can start trying.
Fertility issues: None confirmed, but we've been "risky" before and haven't gotten pregnant, so I'm not sure. I have Mirena now, so hopefully when that's removed I'll have no issues.
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